Stay chaste while dating
You give clear-cut advice on physical parameters in a chaste relationship, and you write that “If you’re serious about embracing chastity, you have to become a bit of an old fuddy duddy.” You spell out situations to avoid: Drinking too much at parties, on dates, or during events out; talking too long and too late in the car; talking too long and too late anywhere; sleepovers; laying down together; kissing laying down; kissing sitting down; maybe even kissing standing up; not to mention kissing with any portion of your clothing removed. I’m just giving a list of situations that can become – or are – minefields for a couple trying to date chastely.Now, a couple of those situations listed are “avoid at all cost” – drinking too much, clothes off.Learn about the law of chastity, what it means to be morally clean, how to repent from sexual sins, and sexuality within marriage.Being chaste means to be morally clean in: Sexual purity means to not have any sexual relations before being legally married including any thoughts, words, or actions that generate desire and arousal.Victims have not broken the law of chastity and do not need to feel guilty for the inappropriate and abusive sexual acts of others.For those victims, God love you and you can receive healing through the Atonement of Christ.Our 13th article of faith states that we believe in being chaste, but what does that mean?What is the law of chastity and how does one stay (or become) sexually pure?
Sometimes people feel that sexuality within marriage is bad or inappropriate.If you avoid it, however, there’s no temptation dogging your steps. That doesn’t mean they haven’t rolled their eyes behind my back though. I’m also sure some are asking, “But how can you tell if you have chemistry with a person if you don’t [fill in the blank.]” I think what most of us who’ve been in chaste relationships, including those who’ve gotten married after being chaste, would say is, “You know.” When you’re not getting too intimate too fast, every little touch and glance take on a heightened importance.You can feel all sorts of sparks without being unchaste.The goal should be safeguarding the gift, protecting it as much as possible until we can use the gift the way God designed it to be used. That’s because avoiding temptation is a lot easier than running from it.If you’re running from it, you’ve already seen it, and its power to stop you dead in your tracks is immense. If you don’t buy or bake any, you’re not going to blow your diet. If you don’t put yourself in situations that can easily lead to sins against chastity, you’re going to have an awful hard time sinning against chastity. The book just came out a few weeks ago, so thus far no one has rolled their eyes to my face.